Dear Mama, you are doin’ good

You are doin' good, mama. Happy Mother's Day!Disclosure: This is part of a sponsored collaboration with Minute Maid and DiMe Media. Minute Maid will provide this prize. Minute Maid is not a sponsor, administrator or connected in any other way with the contest – and all opinions are my own.

I hope my mother knows I don’t remember her shortcomings as a mother to four children nearly as much as her triumphs. You’re doin’ good, mama. 

I was raised by a single mother.

My siblings and I were the first of our family to have divorced parents. I remember my cousins asking me about it as we sat on the bedroom floor and set up our Barbies. They had so many curious questions. It was all in hushed tones, since this was the early 80’s and divorces weren’t as common or accepted yet.

Do you still get to see your dad?
Is it weird?

I would shrug my shoulders indifferently because of course I still saw my dad on weekends and both mom and dad were the same parents who loved me. Besides, they didn’t argue half as much as my aunts and uncles did and we got twice as many presents on Christmas morning. It seemed like a pretty decent arrangement, in my young eyes.

Although divorce is not something to be taken lightly — there are still scars on my heart from my parent’s divorce that happened over thirty years ago — I respect my mother’s decision to raise her children on her own, even if she didn’t really have a choice. My mother is an amazing mama. She is my tireless advocate, my soul supporter and my most energetic cheerleader.

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My mother and stepfather, brothers, sister and stepsister at a recent family gathering.

Still, I know she struggles with the notion that maybe she wasn’t the best mother she could be, that she didn’t make the best decisions for herself and her children. Parental doubt gets the best of us, even when we are confident in our love for one another. I know this mom guilt all too well. Now that I’m a mama of six kids myself, I’m no stranger to sleepless nights, staring at the ceiling, wondering and worrying.

Am I doing this right? Are my children going to be okay? Do my children know how much I love them?

Yes, yes — a hundred times yes.

What I wished my mama understood is just how wonderful of a mother she truly is. She needs to know I don’t remember her shortcomings or her mistakes nearly as much as her triumphs as a mother to four children. You are doin’ good, mama. In fact, you’re doing better than you think.

Not only is my mama a great mother, she’s an even better grandmother.

 

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This is a good reminder for all of us. The amount of love we have for one another, for our spouses, our children, our grandchildren and our friends is a testimony to that fact.

Happy Mother’s Day, mama! I love you dearly.

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There are 11 comments

  1. D

    My wife and I have an autistic son. She home schools him, manages his multiple medical needs, and even gave up her job last year to devote more time to him. She never feels like she’s doing enough, but the truth is she’s amazing.

  2. Jeff girard

    My wife is an amazing mother and never gives herself enough credit. We have five children (8, 7, 5, 3- next month, 1- tomorrow!) Our 7 year old has Noonans Syndrome so he has lots of dr appts, prescriptions to be filled, therapies to go to etc. She is always on top of it! I honestly don’t know how she does it. I come from from work to happy kids, a (mostly) clean house 😉 , and a homemade dinner. Shes teaching our daughter, the 8 year old, to sew and quilt. And has all the kids help out in the kitchen when she is making bread or cooking. She also has them outside learning how to take care of the animals and the garden. She is doing a great job!

  3. samantha ramos

    My mom is amazing. She sacrificed so much as a working single mom bringing us up. We are currently staying with her while we finish up school and save for a home. I don’t think she will ever know how much of an impact she has had on me. She has given me the chance to grow in a stable environment and get an education. I hope I can live up to her standards and give my children all those same opportunities! Gotta love mommies 🙂

  4. Kristin G

    I want to give a shout out to my sister! She has a 7 year old son and is going through a divorce right now. She has some rough days and doesn’t always feel like she is doing her best. My nephew is the sweetest boy and just loves sports. When he plays with my toddler he is such a good role model to him. My sister shouldn’t be so hard on herself because she’s doing something right!

  5. Dawn Monroe

    My oldest daughter has been worried recently because she had to return to work but she is doing great. She has patience, she is organized and very nurturing. Im proud of her and my grand kids. Its a big adjustment but they are doing great.

  6. Lupita m

    My sister has being an amazing mother all the Times since she had her first child now she have 3 more and a adopted one and continúes doing a great job but she Dora not know that she alwas saids she is the runt.

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