Category: being real

Trigger warning: Mama, please defend your daughters

Trigger warning: Mama, please defend your daughters

I was eleven years old. I know it was summer because I was wearing a black one-piece bathing suit and my hair was wet. We’d spent the day at the lake with my cousins, my aunts and uncles. It was…

High, mija | My marijuana-less existence

High, mija | My marijuana-less existence

It’s been over two years since I last smoked a fatty. For those of you who don’t understand, I’m talking about marijuana. Weed. Cannabis. It feels like another lifetime. Yet, I have lots of hilarious, oh-man-I-am-so-stoned-out-my-mind videos on my old…

Resistance: Pushing past fear to tell your story

Resistance: Pushing past fear to tell your story

Whenever I have to do something that is nerve-wracking or downright scary, this self-imposed countdown begins in my mind. I begin to prepare my heart and mind for the task at hand and I watch the sand pour down the…

Pour generously into your children

Pour generously into your children

This is a story about how my parenting came full circle. When I became a mother, I was all in. I threw myself into the role of mama. I took the job of taking care of this tiny person that…

When you’re struggling in your marriage

When you’re struggling in your marriage

I won’t blow sunshine up your skirt. We’re still in a precarious place. Marriage is hard. It takes some time to work through habits and traumas that have happened years before we even entered into this marriage. It’s been kind of…

Why people of color parent their kids the way they do

Why people of color parent their kids the way they do

The sad reality is, this is exactly why people of color parent their kids the way they do. They fear for their child’s life and would rather step in and deal with them harshly rather than let them be killed on the…

Why I decided to stop smoking weed

Why I decided to stop smoking weed

The last night I smoked pot was the night my husband announced he didn’t want to be with me anymore. Just give me a year to get on my feet, he said. As I heard the words come out of…

Working through life changes

Working through life changes

I’m a native Southern Californian and I’ve swam in the Pacific ocean my entire life but it wasn’t until I became an adult that I gained a healthy respect for the ocean. The ocean is immense and powerful. You can’t…

Teenage boys and their crazy hair

Teenage boys and their crazy hair

A teenager’s hair is one of the biggest ways they get to display their originality. All this mama wanted was to make sure my son was sending the right message with his crazy hair. One of the favorite things about…

Blogging: Why I won’t work for free anymore

Blogging: Why I won’t work for free anymore

Warning: If you’re not a blogger, then you might want to sit this one out. Please come back tomorrow when I’ll have a fun post up about a cute back-to-school hair style for girls and I’m feeling less salty. If you’re…